Here are the top 10 things parents feel judged for

Seven in 10 parents feel ‘judged’ on a regular basis – from how they chose to give birth, to how they now feed their child and how they entertain them.

A study of 2,000 parents of children aged 0-3 found that moms and dads feel like others form opinions of them at least three times a week.

As a result, 56 percent who feel intimidated by the opinions of others now fear having more children.

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But this pressure is having a widespread impact and lasting consequences on parents and their children, leaving 38% of them feeling left out.

It also prevents them from participating in key activities with their child, such as going to developmental classes (51%), according to the findings of the C&G baby club.

Judgment was found to be highest during the first year of parenthood, everything from their child’s feeding (31%) and weaning process (26%), to whether they let or not their child watching screens (25%) are tested. .

But for some it starts even earlier with 31% of parents looking for alternative conception methods saying they felt judged.

More than one in 10 (11%) felt the weight of people’s opinions during birth, and 25% beyond the first year of parenthood.

As a result, the C&G baby club has launched its #LoveDontJudge campaign, which aims to raise awareness of the harmful effects of parental judgment and provide tips, unbiased advice and support through articles and a dedicated care line.

The brand has teamed up with expectant parents Olivia and Alex Bowen, who have faced their fair share of judgment – both before becoming expectant parents and since – to support and help those facing parental criticism.

The couple participated in a series of content that brings to life the judgmental feedback parents receive, to raise awareness and end parental judgment before it starts.

TV personality, mum-to-be and campaign ambassador Olivia Bowen said: “As soon as I got pregnant it felt like I was fair game – everything I ate, wore and did was scrutinized and started to feel like I’m cursed if I did and cursed if I didn’t.

“I’m no stranger to criticism, but the overwhelming amount of judgment I received was overwhelming.

“That’s why Alex and I have joined forces with the C&G Baby Club – to end parental judgment and ensure every parent gets the support they need.”

Being judged can impact your mental health

The study also revealed how levels of judgment felt by new parents negatively impact mental health by 71%.

And, worryingly, it prevents parents from being honest about how they feel and getting the help they need, with 63% feeling unable to share their parenting struggles.

While 53% were hesitant to seek advice from friends and family.

It seems parents are damned if they do and damned if they don’t, with 11% feeling judged for conceiving naturally ‘too soon’.

Others felt pressure from outside opinions around the unconventional methods they opted for, including IVF (12%), surrogacy (11%), sperm donors (12%) and adoption (13%).

The research, conducted via OnePoll, also found that one in four mums-to-be had received derogatory comments about their decision to work until their due date (24%).

And 21% felt judged on how they chose to give birth.

A third of those who gave birth by caesarean section felt criticized for choosing the procedure (33%), and 47% felt they had failed as a mother by not giving birth vaginally.

While 28% of those who chose pain relief, such as an epidural, felt they were being judged for putting their own comfort ahead of their baby’s health.

Being judged by others

It also emerged that a third believe judgment is felt most strongly by people they don’t even know (32%), followed by eagle-eyed mothers-in-law (29%), those who ‘they consider friends (23 percent) and their own mothers (23 percent).

Gurinder Bal, spokesperson for the C&G baby club, said: “We think it’s time for the parental judgment to stop.

“There is no such thing as ‘perfect parenthood’ – everyone has their own journey, with the health and happiness of their child being the number one priority.

“Parents deserve support, no matter what their parenting journey looks like or the choices they make.#

The #LoveDontJudge campaign aims to support on a range of topics – from advice on exercise during pregnancy and advice on weaning, to advice on how partners can support during labor in a section dedicated to dads and partners.

Top 10 Things Parents Feel Judged For

1. Bump size (too small/too big)

2. Child’s eating habits

3. Choice of baby activities

4. Eating habits during pregnancy

5. Weight Gain

6. Level of Rest Required During Pregnancy

7. The weaning process

8. Level of exercise during pregnancy

9. Screen Time Level for Kids

10. Child development

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